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12th-Jan-2008 11:39 pm

I really miss my Dad a lot today (for those unaware he died little more than a year ago). Usually it's not something I think about, I'm not really one to miss people wether they are dead or alive, but today is just one of those days I guess.

It's been a really nice day though. Blue skies and warm weather really makes me feel good. I never left the appartment though, so I'll probably take a little walk with Sam inabit.
12th-Jan-2008 10:53 pm (UTC) - Be strong
When I come to the end of the day
And the sun has set for me
I want no rites in a gloom-filled room.
Why cry for a soul set free?
Miss me a little, but not too long
And not with your head bowed low
Remember the love we once shared –
Miss me, but let me go.
For this is a journey we must all take
And each must go alone.
It’s all part of the Maker’s plan,
A step on the road to home.
When you are lonely and sick at heart
Go to the friends we know
And bury your sorrows
In doing good deeds-
Miss me, but let me go.
13th-Jan-2008 12:01 am (UTC) - Re: Be strong
12th-Jan-2008 11:01 pm (UTC)
"my day, my day" I made to say my dying father, in an old story. The callback of the ships, when they make shipwreck.The tenderness of the beauty is the true aid.
in Italian it is said: che la notte ti sia lieve.
13th-Jan-2008 12:01 am (UTC)
12th-Jan-2008 11:19 pm (UTC)
I'm sorry to hear about that. My mom passed away 11 years ago so I can relate
13th-Jan-2008 12:01 am (UTC)
Oh I'm sorry. What happened to your mother?
13th-Jan-2008 12:22 am (UTC)
I know how you feel my mom passed away 2Yrs ago Big LJ hug for you :O)
13th-Jan-2008 01:59 pm (UTC)
hug :)
13th-Jan-2008 04:30 am (UTC)
13th-Jan-2008 01:59 pm (UTC)
13th-Jan-2008 04:54 am (UTC) - I Feel Ya
My dad passed away from lung cancer on fathers day weekend in 1999. I feel ya on this one Markus.
13th-Jan-2008 01:59 pm (UTC) - Re: I Feel Ya
Thanks. I'm sorry about your father.
13th-Jan-2008 04:57 am (UTC) - Irish Prayer :-)
May the road rise up to meet you
May the wind be always at your back
May the sun shine warm upon your face
And the rain fall soft upon your fields
And until we meet again
May God hold you in the palm of his hand.
13th-Jan-2008 02:00 pm (UTC) - Re: Irish Prayer :-)
Well I am really not religious, but I can still appreciate this :) Thanks!
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13th-Jan-2008 02:00 pm (UTC)
Yeah? Glad I could help you :)
13th-Jan-2008 05:49 am (UTC)
Wow, and I was feeling bad about myself, you guys have my condolences.
13th-Jan-2008 02:01 pm (UTC)
You're still allowed to feel bad about yourself ;)
13th-Jan-2008 07:30 am (UTC)
I'm sorry for your loss. The people that have passed on and I knew (friends, family) in order to cope I pretend that they're still living, as strangely inconceivable as that may be, and that they are traveling the world in South America or somewhere fullfilling their dreams and that we're unable to communicate. I know its probably not possible to have that type of coping mechanism with the loss of a parent though.

I hope you feel better soon.
13th-Jan-2008 02:05 pm (UTC)
Well, even if it is terrible, losing our parents is something most of us experience during our lives and it would be strange if that should stop us from going on with our lives. No?

I remember people saying "i can't imagine what you are going through", and see that what was hardest for them to imagine was that we were still able to smile and have fun through it all.
13th-Jan-2008 10:38 am (UTC)
My Dad died last week! (It was one of the reasons I did not comment so much the last weeks)
I remember good the last year when you wrote about your father ...
Now I've gone through it by myself. It's hard to see your Dad passing away without anything you can do about it.
But he slept the last days and I'm sure that he did not suffer.
A big hug
13th-Jan-2008 12:28 pm (UTC)
markus! we are making one page of orphans! my father died when I had 21 years, of cancer to the intestine, was orribile. more of its life, your died changed my life. therefore I was scared that I have not allowed nobody to help me.therefore it was one died without comfort words. not there was Internet, neither the blog. the world, some time, improves.
I embrace for you all
14th-Jan-2008 03:02 am (UTC)
I have had my father and a brother die.
You say 'Usually it's not something I think about, I'm not really one to miss people whether they are dead or alive'. I am the same.
Sometimes the enormity of death is faintly comprehensible to me. Mostly not, and life just goes on happily. The people who have died still occupy more or less the same place in memory as they had before.
I have a piece of music I associate with my brother. That is kind of nice. I heard it on the day I found out he had died, and it seemed suited to him.
I sometimes imagine that when people die they still exist but are in a different state, and they can still kind of know what you are doing, even lend a helping hand from time to time. The only problem is that in that state they become ultimate moral beings, big on surveillance. When I do things an ultimate moral being might not approve of it becomes tricky! And so it is the dead live on...!
14th-Jan-2008 03:04 am (UTC) - whoops
That comment was from me - I forgot to press the 'Open id' button.
17th-Jan-2008 09:23 am (UTC)
hey sorry to hear about your dad. i didn't know.

i lost both of my parents to cancer a few years ago actually. life may go on, but it still kinda sucks... :\